Chapter 11: Come out, Come out wherever you are!

I like to think of myself as a gaydar, u know, a gay radar. This is not a role I chose for myself, but rather one the universe bestowed upon me from when I was in primary school. Although I never really knew what ‘gay’ and ‘homosexual’ were until like high school- I cud always sense those boys that just weren’t “boyie”. Now, now before ya’ll get ur knickers in a knot- I am not a homophobe, far from it ok! Im just writing this piece to let the world know who my gaydar has picked up!

From primary school closeted gays were just naturally drawn to me and it escalated in high school! And then ppl would just make it worse by saying ignorant shit lyk “y u friends with him/her?”, “that guy/girl is a f*g”! The nerve! And I didn’t care- I mean hell who the fuck was I to judge? I was fat wit terrible acne and one hell of a voice (a bully’s wet dream)!  And, my family brought me up better than that. I personally feel that anyone who has ever been discriminated against, either personally or by association- has absolutely no room to practise those actions on another human.

Fast forward five years later from Matric and all my closet homo homies have come out the closet! *happy dance* I am happy because it is not cool seeing someone you care about pretend to be someone else or live a lie. So to you and any other openly gay persons out there GOOD FOR YOU!!! But unfortunately, there are those around us who are still afraid to come out- for whatever reason, and I can respect for that. But then others are screaming queens & u know wat, ima do u a mini favour ladies- so that u know not to perceive a future with these guys!

John Legend, Will.I.Am, Usher, Mr Avenue Glen Lewis, Diddy, Phila,   I’m begging you- do us and you a favour and just come out! I know its stil a taboo thing in the African (American) community but really dudes, we wont care!  So long as u stay away from lil boys- we cool. In the States, shows like Will & Grace, the L Word, Nip/Tuck have helped society become  more acceptable to homosexuality. And we need to start changing the way in which the churches discuss this matter- their archaic views still leave millions trapped in thoughts fuelled by ignorance! And ignorance is more dangerous than any weapon.

Gaga, Beyonce have had their careers catapulted by the gay community. Like Chris Rock said: gays are the first to buy concert tickets cause they dnt have to think about kids etc! Oprah’s interior decorator and flower guy are both openly gay! Elton John, George Michael, Somizi Mhlongo have seen their careers soar to new heights since coming out. And frankly, I know more ladies would love to have a GBF (gay best friend) since our female BFFs now steal our husbands! So ya, take 1 for the team & just come out already!  The great Malume Luther Vandross passed before he could come out and well MJ eish, ya MJ… never mind. But bottom line neh, you cannot live a full life if u are pretending to be someone else.